I recently read a blog post that was kind of a lightbulb moment for me. For the life of me, I can’t remember which chronic illness blog shared it, so if you’re reading this and the post sounds familiar, please let me know!
The post talked about all the things we save for special occasions: dresses, tea sets, our favorite teas. We love something so much that we want to protect it. Unfortunately, life happens, and sometimes our “special occasion” never happens. We go our whole life staring at our best tea set, waiting for a reason to use it. What’s special enough? In the end, the author decided that life itself is a special occasion, and wound up inviting their friends over for tea. They served it on their best china, and a simple get-together with friends became a special occasion.
I’m so guilty of saving things for special occasions. I mean, we all are. But life is a gift, and sometimes those special occasions we’re waiting for may never arrive. Or worse, they may arrive, and we won’t even recognize them.
The post I’m referring to was more insightful than my summary, but the point is that you should stop waiting for a special moment to arrive and start making more moments special. I’ve been trying to do this more in my own life. I drank my favorite tea for no reason. I used a bath bomb instead of taking a shower. I wore a pretty dress when jeans would have sufficed.
Still, old habits can be hard to break. Instead of throwing caution to the wind and living life “just because,” maybe you can find a few small things worthy of celebrating this week. Here are a few suggestions.
1. You’ve survived a hard day.
Listen, being an adult is hard sometimes. Bills, a bad mood permeating the air in your office, getting cut off in traffic. But guess what? You’ve made it this far! You’ve made it through a bad day (or week, or month, or year) and that’s totally worth celebrating. You should go out for coffee with your friends. Go to your favorite cafe. Buy that extra pastry.
2. You have a nice dress you haven’t worn much.
If dresses aren’t your thing, maybe you have a new lipstick you’ve been dying to try out. Or some sandals that you want to break out of the closet because the weather is warming up. You’ve got to wear them sometime, so you should probably do that as soon as possible. Are you free right now?
3. You’ve got something you love that you’ve been putting off.
Uh, hello? Having goals and dreams is a huge reason to celebrate. Too many times, we get bogged down in the everyday things and miss the bigger picture that’s happening around us. It can become too easy to get stuck in Day-to-Day thinking instead of, say, a five year plan. If you’ve still got big dreams (even if you aren’t pursuing them) then you’re doing better than a lot of people. Celebrate your passions by….doing something you’re passionate about. Easier said than done, huh?
There is always a reason to make today special. Whether your kid is hitting a new milestone, you’ve just passed two years at the same job, or you managed to drink water before your morning coffee, you’re probably doing better at this whole life thing than you think you are. So celebrate yourself. Make something special happen instead of waiting for something special to happen to you.
Whats your reason to celebrate?